Summer, here we come...almost!!

You know how to tell it's almost summer?  Our spring activities are starting to come to a close.  Tyson had his last soccer game of the season yesterday.  It's been a tough season.  We haven't won many games and we had to miss a couple because they were on Sunday, but I think Tyson still had a good time.  We sure had fun watching:)

Thoughts on marriage...

I read an article a couple weeks ago about marriage.  Then yesterday, I was having a conversation with my hubby where he suggested that marriage as we know it, is slowly becoming obsolete.  I started thinking....and now, you get to read about it...if you want:)

Once upon a time...a time not too long ago...marriage was a necessary part of society.  1)  You needed a man and a woman to make a baby.  2)  You needed a man to work to provide financial sustenance.  3)  You needed a woman to take care of the children and the home (cook & clean).

These days everything is different.  1)  Just about anyone can adopt a baby (male, female, single, married, gay, straight).  You can also make a baby in a lab and transfer it to any number of carriers.  2)  Woman can now work outside the home and become equally as successful as men.  3)  With more money coming in, nannies and housekeepers can be employed to rear our children and clean our homes.

Now each of these things is not a bad thing.  Actually, most of them are quite positive strides for society as a whole.  BUT, working together, they are making marriage less and less necessary for survival in this day and age.  Why get married (or stay married), if you don't need it?

So what is the answer?  I'm not sure.

I've been thinking though, that at some level husbands and wives need to NEED each other in order to make marriage work.  When you feel needed, you are less likely to leave.  You are more likely to feel valued and fulfilled.  When you need someone, you are less likely to leave.  You are more likely to feel gratitude and love.  Our world seems to put too much emphasis on finding what WE want and doing what feels good to us, rather than being what someone else needs or even finding what we need.

I hope marriage isn't going to disappear.  I love that two people can fall in love and then spend their lives working side by side and raising a family and striving to become better people.  I love having someone who knows me, relies on me, needs me, loves me and shares with me.  Marriage is a good thing.  It can work.  I personally think, it is the best way...although, not always the easiest:)

Shortly after we were married, Spring 2000 (Provo Temple)

Bad Luck Charm

BYU VS UCI

Mike and I went on our very first date to a BYU volleyball game (March, 1999).  Apparently, they were undefeated for the ENTIRE season...except for that one game...on our first date.  Since that day, Mike and I have watched A LOT of BYU sports games together.  I remember assembling our wedding announcements while watching BYU football, sitting in the stands at a basketball game all big and pregnant, and riling our kids up at the excitement that was Jimmer Fredette:)  There were some good times, BUT I have to admit, a lot of the games I was actually able to watch, were kinda like our first date...BYU would lose.   

This past weekend was the Men's Volleyball championship tournament.  We went to see them play UCLA not long ago, and were sent home with a very disappointing loss.  But Thursday, Mike took Jordan to the first tournament game and BYU won (of course it was probably because I wasn't there).  So, yesterday we took the kids to the final tournament game, hoping for a similar experience....but we forgot, the bad luck charm was there...me.

BYU.  LOST.  THREE.  GAMES.  IN.  A.  ROW.

And, did I mention we couldn't even go to Diddy Riese because it was too busy?!

Sorry BYU, I should have stayed home:(

(Tyson was tired of watching us lose)

 

(Luckily we had some friends there to keep us from crying)