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Thursday, August 30, 2012

Mid-Life What?!

If you would have asked me a few years ago "At what age does one have a mid-life crisis?," I would have said around 50.  Well, I'm not 50, but I'm pretty sure I'm muddling through what seems to be a mid-life crisis.  Now, I haven't traded in my family car for a sporty convertable or anything like that, but I am definitely having those feelings of transition. 

When I was a child, I had a vision of what my life would be like.  I imagined myself living in a big house out in the country with lots of kids.  I imagined being super involved with school and activities and church.  I imagined hanging out with great friends and family.  I imagined feeling peace and joy and completeness.

So here I am.  I live in one of the biggest cities in the US.  I have 3 kids partly because I couldn't handle more, but partly because living in LA, I couldn't afford more.  My family is a plane ride away, as well as some of my greatest friends.  I am definitely busy with school and activities, yet they are a lot more stressful than I envisioned.  Serving in the church is something that has brought me a lot of joy, but I am constantly feeling inadequate. 

Life is just harder and more confusing than I ever thought it would be.  I find myself searching for more.  I have never really felt like this in my life before.  I just feel like there is something more I need to do, but I'm not quite sure what it is.  It has been weighing me down.  

So now I am trying to trudge through this "rough patch" without going too far off the deep end (don't worry, I am not going to high tail it to the nearest body piercing parlor...and believe me, I wouldn't have to go far).  I think it will involve a little letting go (especially of some of the unrealistic expectations I may have), and a lot of soul searching...

(Me, back in the day...after marriage, but before babies)
   

2 comments:

Lisa said...

Are you sure you weren't going to say 40, rather than 50? :)

I agree--this is a much trickier part of life than I would have imagined . . . and it's not easy letting go of all those unrealistic expectations of what things should be like. I hope you will be able to find some peace with it all before too long. . . .

The Yeager Family said...

This would be a great late night conversation for us!!
Miss you.